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February 5, 2013

When to Apply for Financial Aid ?

When to Apply for Financial Aid

January 1 of the year you plan to go to college is the first day you can file the FAFSA. College, state and private financial aid deadlines vary. Aim to file the FAFSA as close to January 1 as possible; remember that financial aid dollars are limited, and in many cases are awarded on a first-come, first-served basis.

Don’t Rule Out “Expensive” Colleges

Keep in mind that a college that charges a lot for tuition might offer you generous financial aid. It might even be more affordable than colleges that charge lower tuition. So think about net price — and don’t be afraid to apply to colleges you think you can’t afford..

Once you hear from the colleges you’ve applied to, compare your financial aid offers to see which options are best for you.

 

Excerpt Taken from “College Board”, in service of general public and me myself!

January 27, 2013

How many people search for content online daily?

 

I have taken this excerpt from http://www.go-gulf.com/blog/online-time/ ::

Please have a look at the stats.

 

ebhakt.info World Wide Web user statistics

 

 

Another one from:

http://www.internetworldstats.com/stats.htm

 

ebhakt.info World Wide Web user statistics

INTERNET USAGE STATISTICS
The Internet Big Picture

World Internet Users and Population Stats

 
 

WORLD INTERNET USAGE AND POPULATION STATISTICS
June 30, 2012

World Regions

Population
( 2012 Est.)

Internet Users
Dec. 31, 2000

Internet Users
Latest Data

Penetration
(% Population)

Growth
2000-2012

Users %
of Table

Africa

1,073,380,925

4,514,400

167,335,676

15.6 %

3,606.7 %

7.0 %

Asia

3,922,066,987

114,304,000

1,076,681,059

27.5 %

841.9 %

44.8 %

Europe

820,918,446

105,096,093

518,512,109

63.2 %

393.4 %

21.5 %

Middle East

223,608,203

3,284,800

90,000,455

40.2 %

2,639.9 %

3.7 %

North America

348,280,154

108,096,800

273,785,413

78.6 %

153.3 %

11.4 %

Latin America / Caribbean

593,688,638

18,068,919

254,915,745

42.9 %

1,310.8 %

10.6 %

Oceania / Australia

35,903,569

7,620,480

24,287,919

67.6 %

218.7 %

1.0 %

WORLD TOTAL

7,017,846,922

360,985,492

2,405,518,376

34.3 %

566.4 %

100.0 %

NOTES: (1) Internet Usage and World Population Statistics are for June 30, 2012. (2) CLICK on each world region name for detailed regional usage information. (3) Demographic (Population) numbers are based on data from the US Census Bureau and local census agencies. (4) Internet usage information comes from data published by Nielsen Online, by the International Telecommunications Union, by GfK, local ICT Regulators and other reliable sources. (5) For definitions, disclaimers, navigation help and methodology, please refer to the Site Surfing Guide. (6) Information in this site may be cited, giving the due credit towww.internetworldstats.com. Copyright © 2001 - 2013, Miniwatts Marketing Group. All rights reserved worldwide.


 

Another one from: http://royal.pingdom.com/2010/01/22/internet-2009-in-numbers/

 

Email

·  90 trillion – The number of emails sent on the Internet in 2009.

·  247 billion – Average number of email messages per day.

·  1.4 billion – The number of email users worldwide.

·  100 million – New email users since the year before.

·  81% – The percentage of emails that were spam.

·  92% – Peak spam levels late in the year.

·  24% – Increase in spam since last year.

·  200 billion – The number of spam emails per day (assuming 81% are spam).

Websites

·  234 million – The number of websites as of December 2009.

·  47 million – Added websites in 2009.

Web servers

·  13.9% – The growth of Apache websites in 2009.

·  -22.1% – The growth of IIS websites in 2009.

·  35.0% – The growth of Google GFE websites in 2009.

·  384.4% – The growth of Nginx websites in 2009.

·  -72.4% – The growth of Lighttpd websites in 2009.

ebhakt.info World Wide Web user statistics

Domain names

·  81.8 million – .COM domain names at the end of 2009.

·  12.3 million – .NET domain names at the end of 2009.

·  7.8 million – .ORG domain names at the end of 2009.

·  76.3 million – The number of country code top-level domains (e.g. .CN, .UK, .DE, etc.).

·  187 million – The number of domain names across all top-level domains (October 2009).

·  8% – The increase in domain names since the year before.

Internet users

·  1.73 billion – Internet users worldwide (September 2009).

·  18% – Increase in Internet users since the previous year.

·  738,257,230 – Internet users in Asia.

·  418,029,796 – Internet users in Europe.

·  252,908,000 – Internet users in North America.

·  179,031,479 – Internet users in Latin America / Caribbean.

·  67,371,700 – Internet users in Africa.

·  57,425,046 – Internet users in the Middle East.

·  20,970,490 – Internet users in Oceania / Australia.

ebhakt.info World Wide Web user statistics

Social media

·  126 million – The number of blogs on the Internet (as tracked by BlogPulse).

·  84% – Percent of social network sites with more women than men.

·  27.3 million – Number of tweets on Twitter per day (November, 2009)

·  57% – Percentage of Twitter’s user base located in the United States.

·  4.25 million – People following @aplusk (Ashton Kutcher, Twitter’s most followed user).

·  350 million – People on Facebook.

·  50% – Percentage of Facebook users that log in every day.

·  500,000 – The number of active Facebook applications.

Images

·  4 billion – Photos hosted by Flickr (October 2009).

·  2.5 billion – Photos uploaded each month to Facebook.

·  30 billion – At the current rate, the number of photos uploaded to Facebook per year.

Videos

·  1 billion – The total number of videos YouTube serves in one day.

·  12.2 billion – Videos viewed per month on YouTube in the US (November 2009).

·  924 million – Videos viewed per month on Hulu in the US (November 2009).

·  182 – The number of online videos the average Internet user watches in a month (USA).

·  82% – Percentage of Internet users that view videos online (USA).

·  39.4% – YouTube online video market share (USA).

·  81.9% – Percentage of embedded videos on blogs that are YouTube videos.

Web browsers

ebhakt.info World Wide Web user statistics

Malicious software

·  148,000 – New zombie computers created per day (used in botnets for sending spam, etc.)

·  2.6 million – Amount of malicious code threats at the start of 2009 (viruses, trojans, etc.)

·  921,143 – The number of new malicious code signatures added by Symantec in Q4 2009.

Data sources: Website and web server stats from Netcraft. Domain name stats fromVerisign and Webhosting.info. Internet user stats from Internet World Stats. Web browser stats from Net Applications. Email stats from Radicati Group. Spam stats from McAfee. Malware stats from Symantec (and here) and McAfee. Online video stats fromComscore, Sysomos and YouTube. Photo stats from Flickr and Facebook. Social media stats from BlogPulse, Pingdom (here and here), Twittercounter, Facebook and GigaOm.

 

 

 

 

Another one taken from : http://www.why-not.com/company/stats.htm 

 

There are numerous surveys trying to figure out how many people are using the Internet, when, what for, and how.
The following information was gathered from various sources on and off the 'net.

 



  • Number of Internet companies based in New York City that have gone public since 1990: 16
    Number of Internet companies based in San Jose, California, that have gone public since 1990: 6
     

  • The number of Internet users in China is estimated at 1,750,000 
  • 1,700,000 copies of the Starr Report were downloaded from CNN in the first two days it was available. 
  • Delta Airlines is planning to charge a $2.- fee for tickets not purchased on the Internet.
    Amount of Delta Airlines tickets sold via the Internet in 1998: less than 3%
     

  • Estimated US consumer spending on online retail purchases during 1998 holiday season is $8,200,000,000 
  • There are 19 members of the U.S. National Advisory Commission on Electronic Commerce. 
  • 25% of retail stock trades now taking place on the Internet. 
  • 87% of print journalists are connected to the Internet. 
  • Bank's cost to process an in-person transaction: $1.07 Bank's cost to process an Internet transaction: $0.01 
  • Estimated number of web users in the U.S. (May 1998): 57,037,000 
  • The U.S. Census Bureau is expected to be using the Internet for the census in the year 2010 
  • There are 7 time servers operated by the U.S. National Institute of Standards and Technology. 
  • It took 5 Vanderbilt students to make the Muhammad Ali's web site. 
  • Estimated number of web pages, as of April, 1998: 320,000,000 
  • Number of gopher requests to the InterNIC registration services during February, 1998: 71,744
    Number of phone calls to the InterNIC registration services during February, 1998: 40,476
    Number of WWW requests to the InterNIC registration services during February, 1998: 17,091,774


  • None of the U.S. government agencies is rated as being in full compliance with the Electronic Freedom of Information Act. 
  • There are no Internet service providers (ISP's) in Saudi Arabia! 
  • Businesses in Britain and Ireland estimated the cost of dealing with spam e-mail at $8,000,000,000.- 
  • Some of the chopsticks at Mary Chung's lunch are labeled with URLs. 
  • In 1998, 3.4 trillion e-mail messages delivered to 81 million e-mail users in the United States, says a marketing firm. That's more than 6.5 million messages per minute. "Some people, particularly those in high-tech fields, get over 200 per day," said Geoffrey Ramsey of eMarketer, which performed the study.
    Source: UPI.

  • GVU's 6th survey results: 
      Gender
      • Female: 38.5%
      • Male: 61.5%

      Language
      • English 44%
      • German 12%
      • Dutch 11%

      Most Important Issue Facing the Internet
      • Privacy 30%
      • Censorship 24%
      • Navigation 17%

      • 66% use modem speeds - 33.6K or less 
      • 71% of users have not changed browsers within the past year 
      • 46% of all respondents have created a web page 
      • More than 80% of Internet users say that email and the web have become indispensable technologies. 
      • 85% of the Internet users are using it daily.

      The above statistical data was compiled mainly (but not only) from the results of the GVU's 8th WWW User Survey.
      Any information provided by GVU is copyright 1994-1997 by the Georgia Tech Research Corporation Atlanta, Georgia 30332-0415 ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. 
      please refer to the Usage Restrictions

      Graphical display of GVU's 6th survey results is available at http://www.why-not.com/company/stats3.htm#GVU6 
  • A fresh light has been shed on the browser wars as a result of a set of never before asked questions. We now know that a) the dominant method people acquire browsers is via bundling with hardware, software, and Internet Service Providers (ISP) and b) the majority of users never switch browsers (even among users who have been on the Internet for over three years). Given these new findings, it is not surprising to see the slow, but steady emergence of Internet Explorer as market share is being gained primary from new users who receive the browser bundled as part of other computer related purchases. 
  • 40% of on-line users watch TV and PC screens simultaneously. 
  • 44.6% of Webmasters like the term "Webmaster". 
  • Circulation base of Web Week: 125,000
    Circulation base of BusinessWeek: 1,025,000
     

  • From April to June 1997, there was an increase of 140% in number of on-line auction sites listed by Yahoo 
  • There are currently 13 root name servers. 
  • Undersea telephone cables are estimated at 186,000 miles.
    In 1997, the growth rate of data traffic on these cables was 90%
     

  • 80% of software publishers offer technical support on the web. 
  • As of October 1997, the growth rate, per month, in Internet access revenues is 24.9% 
  • 25% of purchasing agents plan to increase use of the Internet for buying industrial supplies. 
  • Each and every one of the apartments in New York's Grand Millenium "CyberBuilding" is equipped with its own T1 line! 
  • Th average number of dial-up customers per ISP (in the USA) is 3,450 
  • 3% of the ISPs (in the USA) expect their revenues to decline from 1996 to 1997 
  • 15% of the ISPs (in the USA) expect to be acquired within three years. 
  • Growth in on-line advertising revenues from first Q1 1997 to Q2 1997 was 65% 
  • Growth in on-line advertising revenues from first Q2 1997 to Q3 1997 was only 6% 
  • 82% of the Web users consider Web access to be "indispensable". 
  • 48% of employers think the Web has raised productivity. 
  • 10% of poster ads at Boston's Government Center subway station have URLs on them. 
  • According to webring.com there are 18,689 web rings (chains of related web sites). 
  • Approximate number of page views at Yahoo: 38,000,000 per day. 
  • In 1994, 35% of U.S. public schools were connected to the Internet.
    In 1996, 65% of U.S. public schools were connected to the Internet.
     

  • Total number of issued U.S. patents mentioning the word "Internet": 170 
  • Only 16% of commercial Web sites are attracting advertising revenue. 
  • 12% of the people remember a banner ad from a Web site.
    10% of the people remember a TV ad.
     

  • Range of prices to reach 1000 adults through Web advertising, in dollars: 40-70
    Range of prices to reach 1000 adults through advertising during "Seinfeld", in dollars: 20-30
     

  • 31% of CIOs are planning to increase Internet spending significantly in 1998. 
  • According to Boardwatch Magazine, approximate number of Internet Service Providers (ISPs) in the U.S. and Canada, in August, 1997: 4,133
    Number of ISPs listed by Boardwatch in February, 1996: 1,447
     

  • Amount of venture capital investments in Internet companies during the second quarter of 1997: $561,500,000.
    Number of companies receiving the money: 111
     

  • Number of Internet-related job titles in the new proposed edition of the Standard Occupational Categories of the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics: 0
    Number of occupations listed: 795
     

  • Number of Americans who consider the Internet "indispensable,": 20,000,000 
  • Difference in time spent on the Web by business users over home users: 65% 
  • Rank of censorship among users concerned about issues facing the Internet: 1 
  • 34 percent of U.S. Internet users identify themselves as Republicans. 
  • Rank of Internet security among accountant's top technology concerns for 1997: 1 
  • By the year 2000, estimated percentage of Internet commerce related to travel: 41 
  • Estimated number of e-mail messages that will be sent in the year 1997: 2.7 trillion.
    Estimated number of e-mail messages that will be sent in the year 2000: 6.9 trillion.
     

  • Estimated amount spent by end-users on Internet and Intranet products in 1996: $19,000,000,000. 
  • Number of subscribers to the PCS-computer-jokes-mailing-list in December 1995: about 30.
    Number of subscribers to the 
    PCS-computer-jokes-mailing-list
     in December 1997: over 4000. 
  • According to Nielsen, 23% (estimated) of people over 16 in the U.S. and Canada use the Internet. 
  • Number of mailing lists in the liszt.com directory: 71,618 
  • Number of subscribers to the A.Word.A.Day mailing list: 68,355 
  • There are 6 different languages on the Vatican web site. 
  • Total Internet advertising revenues in 1996 is estimated at $266,900,000
    38% of the total was spent for advertising computer products.
     

  • The estimated number of new jobs created by the Internet in 1996, worldwide is 1.1 million 
  • Number of Internet millionaires listed on the Internet millionaires page: 88 
  • There are 30 priests in Catholic Priests On Line on AOL. 
  • During 1996, 55% of 1-800-FLOWERS'S on-line sales came via the web. 
  • 59% of Boston Public Library computers equipped with software to block offensive websites. 
  • According to the Spring 97 CommerceNet and Nielsen Media Research Study of Internet Demographics and Electronic Commerce, 71 percent of frequent Web users most often use search engines to find Web sites.
    Other methods of locating sites include recommendations from friends and relatives (9.8%), newspapers and magazines (8.5%), links from other Web sites (8.4%), television (3.6%) and printed Internet directories (3.3%).
     

  • According to Student.Net, around 98% of the 8.8 million four-year college students in the U.S. have free access to the Internet and spend more time online than any other group -- about five hours per week.
    From: http://www.student.net.

  • Network Solutions announced that it has registered its one millionth active Internet domain name. BONNYVIEW.COM was registered to Rebecca and Steven LaBlance, who own the Bonny View Cottage Furniture company in the town of Petoskey, Michigan, 250 miles northwest of Detroit.
    The first .com registrants were Symbolics Technology, Inc. (March 1985) and BBN (April 1985). Just 18 months ago there were 120,000 active domain names; a year ago the number had increased to over 306,000. In 1993, the total population of the domain name database was 4,000. Today, Network Solutions registers an average of 3,000 names daily, with more than 90% active within 24 hours. Network Solutions has been providing InterNIC domain name registrations since April 1993, under a cooperative agreement sponsored by the National Science Foundation. Network Solutions was acquired by Science Applications International Corp. (SAIC) in March, 1995, and operates as a wholly-owned subsidiary.

    More information is available at: http://www.netsol.com or http://rs.internic.net.

  • In November 1996, Jupiter Communications' AdSpend report estimated that total WWW advertising revenue was $66,000,000 in the third quarter of 1996, the highest for any quarter up until then. It brought the total in 1996 to $138,000,000 .
    The growth rate for the quarter was 43 percent resulting in revenue five times that of the fourth quarter 1995.
    From http://www.jup.com/jupiter/release/nov96/adspend/adspend.shtml

  • Approximate number of new domain name registrations: 85,000 per month. 
  • Number of entries in Boardwatch magazine's Directory of Internet Service Providers (ISPs): 3,068
    Average number of customers at an ISP: 1,850
     

  • In October 1996, a report by Frost and Sullivan claimed that advertising is fast becoming the largest growing segment of the Internet, accounting for 3.4 percent or $85,000,000 of all ad dollars spent in 1996. The market is expected to grow to 22.2 percent or $5,480,000,000 by 2002.
    From http://techweb.cmp.com/ia/iad_web_/newsnow/oct21-25/oct25/oct25-4.htm

  • In October 1996, a study by Internet Profiles (I/Pro) and DoubleClick Network, entitled 'A Comprehensive Analysis of Ad Response,' claimed that Internet users click on 2.11 percent of all ad banners displayed, while direct mail typically generates a 1 percent to 2 percent response rate, and print ads 0.5 percent to 0.75 percent.
    From http://www.ipro.com/pr961008.html

  • In October 1996, a report by Hambrecht and Quist indicated that yearly advertising revenue will soar to $3,800,000,000 by the year 2000 -- far above this year's projection of $300,000,000 and last year's revenues of $12,000,000 . 
  • In November 1996, a survey by Datapro Information Services, entitled 'The Banking Technology Issues: 1996 International Survey,' revealed that banks are responding to competitive pressures and moving into Internet-based banking services. Results show that 7 percent of the bank IT professionals surveyed in early 1996 offered Internet banking services and 36 percent had plans to do so by 1997. 61 percent of those surveyed will have implemented Internet marketing activities by 1997, up from 17 percent at the time of the survey.
    From http://www.datapro.com/datapr10.htm

  • In December 1996, Positive Support Review, Inc's 'Banking Industry Internet Response Time Study,' found that nearly one-fourth of all requests for Internet banking services fail because of problems such as missing URLs, downed servers or sites under construction. 
  • In July 1996, a study by Simba entitled 'Web Advertising: Market Analysis and Forecast' found that, 'Advertising revenues from the World Wide Web and the four largest proprietary online services (America Online, CompuServe, Prodigy and Microsoft Network) would total $200,000,000 in 1996 and grow to $1,970,000,000 in 2000'.
    From http://www2.simbanet.com/simba/whatnew/whats1.html#WA

  • In July 1996, a survey by www.consult of the Australian Internet found that, 'A large majority of respondents are willing to try online banking and online shopping.' 
  • In September 1996, a Killen and Associates report entitled 'E-Cash Payments: Impact and Opportunity,' estimated that, 'By the year 2000, consumers world-wide will use electronic cash for 9,000,000,000 transactions.
    By 2005, this will have risen to 20,000,000,000 . This has enormous implications for all companies who produce payment services and products.'
    From http://www.killen.com/studies/study.ecash.fwd.htm


October 2, 2012

Alcohol and your Brain

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May 22, 2010

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April 30, 2010

romance n romance

:::art: a superior skill that you can learn by study and practice and observation; "the art of conversation"; "it's quite an art" ::

ability for knightly sports including strength, speed, dexterity, training, tactical ability, cunning. In short, martial excellence. Prowess is the basic virtue shared by all martial societies, whether it be excellence in swordsmanship, horsemanship, or in the modern day, movement and marksmanship. Early on these warrior virtues were augmented by additional virtues suggested by the romances and the church, yielding a more rounded gentleman. ...

warrior virtues were augmented by additional virtues suggested by the romances and the church, yielding a more rounded gentleman. ...

Psychoactive drug

A psychoactive drug or psychotropic substance is a chemical substance that acts primarily upon the central nervous system where it alters brain function, resulting in temporary changes in perception, mood, consciousness and behavior.

These drugs may be used recreationally to purposefully alter one's consciousness (such as coffee, alcohol, cocaine or cannabis), as entheogens for spiritual purposes (such as the mescaline-containing peyote cactus or psilocybin-containing mushrooms), and also as medication (such as the use of narcotics in controlling pain, stimulants to treat narcolepsy and attention disorders, as well as anti-depressants and anti-psychotics for treating neurological and psychiatric illnesses).

Many of these substances (especially the stimulants and depressants) can be habit-forming, causing chemical dependency and may lead to substance abuse. Conversely, others (namely the psychedelics) can help to treat and even cure such addictions.

aries

An Aries man is adventurous, and he wants excitement in his relationships. Despite his questioning nature, he'll only fall for an honest, innocent woman. Possessing a fairy-tale approach to romance, he won't tolerate devious behavior. His adventurous nature extends to the bedroom, where he likes to act out all of his fantasies. In all respects, this man wants to take charge. So sit back and relax. Let him take the lead, make the plans, and take care of you. You'll be in good hands if you let him sweep you off your feet

(This reading contains excerpts from your full-length version. To get the most from this reading, purchase the full-length interpretation now!)

Chapter 1: The Sun

Your Sun is in Aries (Tropical zodiac).

         From Aries are found inclinations often to be considered by others as being headstrong. Find out more with your full-length reading...

         This tendency toward self-determination and being headstrong is probably rooted in at least one lifetime in ancient Palestine.  Your likely link with the tribal nomads known as the Hebrews is expressed in your urge either to be a powerful yet somewhat dogmatic leader or to be inclined to follow someone with strong leadership qualities. Find out more with your full-length reading...

         Also, living in large or extended family units dominated by a strong director or leader (whether male or female), having special admiration for winners, or even being totally submissive to another person who you feel is somehow in charge of you and your life are characteristic inclinations from similar experiences long ago.

Don't Say To A Cop

Things not to say to a cop when you're pulled over...
I only had one officer Mr. Keg..

Back off Barney, I've got a piece.
Want to race to the station, Sparky?
I know I was weaving, but I can't find the Honeycomb Hideout!
On the way to the station let's get a twelve pack.
You'll never get those cuffs on me...You Pussy!
Come on write the damn ticket, the bars close in 20 minutes!
Hey, wasn't your daughter a pork queen?
How long is this going to take? Your wife is expecting me.
Hey officer, is that your nightstick or are you just glad to see me?
I'm surprised you stopped me, Dunkin Donuts has a 3 for 1 special!

Yeah you can see my license and registration, officer, but could you hold my beer for a minute?

Hey, you must've been doing' about 125mph (200km/h) to keep up with me! Good job!
Sorry, Officer, I didn't realize my radar detector wasn't plugged in.
I thought you had to be in relatively good physical condition to be a Police Officer.
Excuse me. Is "stick up" hyphenated?
You know, I was going to be cop, but I decided to finish high school instead.
"Bad Cop! No Donut!"
I was trying to keep up with traffic. Yes, I know there are cars around, that's how far I am behind the other cars.
You're NOT gonna check the trunk, are you?
"Lets do it different this time... I will give you the breathalyzer test, now stick this in your mouth and blow"
Didn't I see you get your ass kicked on "COPS" last week on TV?
Wow, You look just like the guy in the picture next to my girlfriend's bed.
I bet I could grab that gun before you finish writing my ticket
So, uh, you "on the take", or what?
Gee, officer! That's terrific. The police officer yesterday only gave me a warning too!
Do you know why you pulled me over? Good, at least one of us does.
So, are you still crabby because your mamma didn't let you play with your gun when you were little?
Hey is that a 9 mm? That's nothing compared to this .44 magnum.
When you smack the crap outta me, make sure you smile for the video camcorder.
Is it true that people become policemen because they are too dumb to work at McDonalds?

Hey, you look like that girl I fucked a few days ago...

Aren't you one of the Village People?

Hey officer, want to see a trick? Look at your wife!

Free marriage advice: what not to say to your partner

Free marriage advice: what not to say to your partner

Free marriage advice: Words can make or break us, hurt or heal us. In a marriage, what we say to our spouse is important. Here are some tips on what to say and what NOT to say in your marriage.

Words can make or break us, hurt or heal us. Have you ever had your boss degrade or insult you or your work? Have you ever had a total stranger or a sibling tease you or insult you? Words can hurt. We have all heard the rhyme, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me." And though we liked to spout out that rhyme in retaliation to a cruel schoolmate's teasing, we knew deep down that the words cut like a knife.

In a marriage, what we say to our spouse is important. The wrong thing can rip a husband's ego to shreds. The wrong words can send a wife's self esteem plummeting. Words can be the life and death of a marriage. The Bible says that the tongue is a two edged sword, that is what this means.

Often husbands and wives use words out of anger or ignorance, with no conscious awareness of the consequences that their words may have on their spouse. It may be one sentence that could stab like a knife through the heart or it could be small words, relentless torture, that little by little, tear down the delicately woven fabric which is love.

Here are some suggestions on what to say to make your marriage stronger, along with some destructive words or phrases that should NEVER be uttered in a marriage relationship.

DO SAY:

-I love you

-You look beautiful (or handsome)

-I appreciate you

-I believe in you

-You are a wonderful person

-Thank you

-Would you please help me with this?

-I am thinking of you

-I can't wait to see you

-Please

-Can I help you?

-I love spending time with you

-You mean everything to me

-You are so strong (to the husband)

-You mean the world to me

-I am so lucky to have you in my life

-I am proud of you!

-I respect you

-I am here for you

-I am listening.

Always ask, don't demand. Give compliments. Share your feelings. You may think she knows that you love her. You make think he knows that you appreciate him, but often they don't. They need to hear it. Use "I" instead of "You" to start your sentences, so not to put your spouse on the defensive.

DON'T SAY:

-I told you so

-You're lazy

-You're fat

-Did you gain weight?

-You ALWAYS (or) You NEVER....(saying you ALWAYS or you NEVER, is threatening, and not true...it might be this time or sometimes...take the situation on an individual basis)

-You're a failure

-You made a misake (that person knows if he or she made a mistake. Pointing it out will only make them resent you)

-You never listen to me

-You're ridiculous

-That's stupid

-You're such an airhead

-Don't you know how to do anything?

-What's the matter with you?

-Are you crazy?

-You're so dumb

-I hate you

-I don't know why I married you

-You never help me

-You don't listen

-All you do is watch tv

-This marriage is a ball and chain

-Do .....(this or that, whatever like ....take out the garbage or why don't you go cut the grass....)ALWAYS ASK. NEVER DEMAND

-You're going to be sorry

-Your paychecks are so small I can't pay the bills

-You're sloppy

-You never clean the house

-Why don't you fix your hair?

-Is that all you have to wear is that old t-shirt?

-You don't understand anything

-You never loved me

-You never show me love

-You never do anything for me

-You don't understand anything

-Is that all?

-You're pathetic

-You're not even a man (or woman)

-Don't you know anything?

-You are so....(whatever....thats an automatic insult)

Many of these are examples, but you get the picture. Don't poke fun at your marriage when you're with your friends. Don't belittle your spouse or say things that will make them feel insecure or self conscious. Don't degrade your spouse. Don't ever curse at your spouse or stoop to name calling. Basically, don't insult your spouse. Don't demand anything, ask. Listen. Accept your spouse unconditionally. Be kind and loving, courteous and respectful. Marriage is a beautiful thing and to stay in love, there must be empathy and respect.

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